I’ll start by saying a belated happy Christmas and a slightly early happy new year!
So it’s that time of year when everybody gets a bit more friendly then normal – a bit more lovey – people who don’t usually hug are hugging me, and the ones who usually hug are dishing out kisses (on the cheek) too!
It’s the time of year for spreading colds! Haha. I spent a few days helping out at my old workplace in the run-up to Christmas, it was great to catch up with old friends, definitely made Christmas feel a little more Christmassy!
I spoke to babu a couple of days ago, he asked if I had “wished” anyone, it took a couple of minutes to establish what he meant but what he meant was had I wished anyone happy Christmas, like with the above aforementioned hugs and kisses. Now, hugging my friends is perfectly normal for me, male and female alike, it’s no big deal and it’s how we have greeted each other since I can remember, yet it appears to be more of an issue for Babu.
I’m not entirely sure if this is a culture thing or a babu thing? I know guys and girls don’t tend to mingle so unless they are family in India. So when babu asked if I had “wished” any boys, I casually answered yes as it’s normal for me to greet my friends that way- he wasn’t happy. In fact he told me not to hug any boys. He doesn’t like other people touching me.
Now this is where I have a bit of a problem. I don’t want to change the way I am because he says so, it doesn’t feel right to me, I’m not doing anything wrong after all, I don’t have any issue with him hugging anyone if he wanted to. However, in a way I can also understand his insecurities, that whilst he is thousands of miles away from me and can barely talk to me, there are other guys who get to touch me – even if it is only in a platonic fashion.
What to do? I don’t know, I can get by without hugging people, yeah, fine, but theres that fighting part of me that says “why should I?” when it doesn’t do any harm, and theres the part of me that worries “if I concede to this, what next?” don’t talk to your guy friends? Some of my best friends are guys – and the relationships are nothing more than brotherly! I’m over thinking and probably being paranoid – as is Babu in fact!!
Has anyone else come across this sort of thing?
Thank goodness we will be together in a week!