It’s happened…. I’ve become a head wobbler!
It took two years but its happened, I ‘caught’ the head wobble! I don’t know how long I’ve been at it since I only noticed the other week on holiday when someone did it back to me in reply.
Awkward? Well could possibly be if I don’t know said person, but they fortunately knew who my other half is which makes more sense of it, even though he himself is not much of a head wobbler!
But come to think of it I actually do do it quite often these days, so I do worry that there might be an occasion one day where someone might think I am mocking them.
Actually bringing that into a wider scale there are other things too that along the way I have become to adopt, which I know in a roundabout way could even cause offence. Many a time I have read discussions or articles over white women causing offence by adopting parts of Indian culture – in particular I remember an article about a girl who just liked to wear sarees – should Asians for whom this is their tradition take this as an insult or a flattering complement?
I can understand in a way both sides of the story. Sarees, bangles and bindis are beautiful, and as a westerner I completely understand why any girl would want to wear these given the opportunity. However for Asians these aren’t simply just adornments, they have history and tradition and are symbolistic and meaningful, for which I can see how someone wearing this yet not understanding could cause offence.
I own a saree, but unfortunately have yet to have the opportunity to wear it. I bought it in India last year and if I’m honest it is so (for want of a better word) ‘blingy’ i would need a rather special occasion to wear it, and even then I haven’t gotten around to getting the blouse stitched for it yet. I also own bangles, which I do wear almost every day now, I understand the meaning for them to married woman, and in the same way I like to wear them to show commitment to Babu, not that any of my peers understand this, to them they are just bracelets, and yes, I do also like them because they are pretty – I’m still a girl after all.
In the future, even in India I don’t think a saree will become my day-to-day wear, simply because I am much more comfortable in some nice chinos or jeans, but I certainly look forward to wearing them at weddings, festivals and other occasions.
I have already been told that it would be expected of me to always wear bangles and sindoor after marriage which at first I was inclined to rebel against, but in time I have learnt more and more of the culture I realise that it would almost be wrong of me not to.
It’s funny actually, there was a mela festival showcasing local Asian arts yesterday, I only saw 2 people on sarees and they were both young, blonde, white British girls! I must say they both looked beautiful, it’s just unfortunate that one girl had the straps of her underwear hanging from her blouse!
If love to know others thoughts on how girls like me can be perceived in the desi culture. I’m very keen to observe customs and traditions, and am also inadvertently picking up other indianisms along the way, I really want to strike a good balance, and of course avoid offending anyone.